Efficient and Effective Counsel throughout Your High-Conflict Divorce
Protecting the interests of clients in Knoxville and beyond
In an ideal world, couples would decide to separate for the same reasons at the same time, and experience the same emotional response. In the real world, however, a divorce often creates tension and stress for both parties. When you are embroiled in a high-conflict divorce, it can seem as though there is no end in sight.
At LaFevor & Slaughter in Knoxville, we help guide clients through those difficult times. With more than 40 years of experience in all manner of divorce proceedings, Jim LaFevor and Patrick Slaughter know what it takes to build a proactive strategy designed to eliminate as much conflict as possible while ensuring that your needs and goals are met. If your soon-to-be-ex is particularly contentious, you can rest assured that we have the skills, resources and experiences to fight aggressively and effectively for your rights in courtroom “battles.” Whatever challenges your divorce may bring, we are prepared to meet them head on.
Tips for making it through a high-conflict divorce
While there is no legal advice that is suited for all couples – each divorce, like each person, is different and needs to be treated independently – there are some things you can do to keep yourself from boiling over:
- Never underestimate the power of a deep breath. Every time you feel like you want to scream or lash out, take a deep breath and count to 10. Focus only on the numbers you count; in this way, you can divert your attention and decrease your stress levels for a few moments.
- Rely on us for communication. If you and your spouse cannot communicate without anger, do not communicate at all; that is why you hire attorneys on the first place. Jim and Patrick are skilled communicators who can make your needs known and understood by your spouse’s attorney, and who know how to diffuse a tense situation before it gets out of hand. Let us handle the bluster.
- Do not involve your children. Parenting time, custody, and visitation – these are among the most difficult decisions two divorcing parents will make. The urge to lash out at your ex through your children may be natural, but it is never acceptable. Not only will it make you look petty, but it will eventually backfire as your child will eventually come to resent your attitude. Whatever you do, do not engage your children in adult discussions regarding their other parent – and do not take the bait if your spouse attempts to do so.
- Do not involve mutual friends. Venting your anger and frustrations to your friends is a normal part of life, and it can actually help you work through the issue. But do not choose mutual friends when you need to vent. No matter what they say, the urge to spread gossip may be too strong for them, and all of your secrets may make their way back to your spouse.
- Sign off social media. Never, ever post anything about your private life on social media sites – even if your divorce is amicable. Tennessee courts can and will use discovery from these sites to inform their decisions. Pictures of you and a new potential beau, or rants about your ex online – all of this may be admissible in court. If you cannot avoid being online, stick to positive interactions with your family and friends. Ask your friends and older children to not post or get involved on line in any specifics of the divorce.
- Do not text or tweet. Stop tweeting or engaging in similar broadcast postings about your spouse until the conclusion of your divorce. While society is moving toward less face to face or telephone communications, for the time your divorce is pending, it is smarter to stop all posting to Twitter and to restrict your texting. It is generally too easy to send a text when you are angry or upset with your spouse and what you perceive as an unfair situation. Unfortunately, lawyers are very adept at using that communication against you. Before you text or tweet, read the steps above.
Whether your spouse is fighting over your claim to alimony, is trying to claim you make more money than you do so that he or she can collect more child support, wants a larger and disproportionate share of the assets, or simply refuses to agree to a divorce under the same grounds as you listed – when you are involved in a high-conflict divorce, you want an attorney who can handle each complexity and challenge. The Knoxville divorce lawyers of LaFevor & Slaughter are ready and able to fight on your behalf to ensure that your needs and fulfilled and your goals are met.
Let us eliminate some of the stress of your high-conflict divorce
LaFevor & Slaughter in Knoxville is widely acknowledged for its considerable skills in challenging courtroom situations. Perhaps that is why so many of our clients recommend us to their friends and loved ones who are going through high-conflict divorces in Tennessee. To schedule a consultation, please call us at 865-637-6258 or contact our Knoxville office.